Loss Lessons: Why am I here?


As I’ve said before, death can be a great teacher. It often wakes us up from living our life everyday on autopilot. Which can lead us to wonder why we have been living unconsciously all this time and to acknowledge the longing to live to our real potential, to fulfill our unique purpose.

Many struggle with knowing what their purpose is. Often it is because they are still letting outside influences or what they were told as a child keep them from acknowledging their passions and believing they are capable of living them.

Here’s the big secret, you can achieve your goals and you can live your dreams. YOU just have to believe it and then you have to DO something to get there. It doesn’t have to be some huge step, a very small step is more effective than getting stuck in the pre-planning/dreaming stage out of the fear of failure and risk.

The other necessary part of all this, is to not focus on just yourself. You could achieve your goals just to please yourself, but that is very
fleeting satisfaction. It will be forgotten the next day.

The key is to live your passion and use it to help others, to make the world a better place. There are limitless ways to do this, and everyone has a unique way to connect with, and help others. Some will be on a grand scale, but that is not important. Really, you never really know how many people you can impact by sharing your story, your truth and your gifts. What matters is that you live YOUR unique purpose.

Do not attempt to copy others, to take on their message, you have not lived their life or had their experiences. It is a complete waste of time to take on a false mission that you were not meant to be on and impossible to be in harmony because you are not really living your truth.

So what is your purpose?

Are you even awake?

I hope so.





Loss Lessons: Success


Remembering that you are going to die is the best way I know to avoid the trap of thinking you have something to lose. You are already naked. There is no reason not to follow your heart. -Steve Jobs

I am a big believer in belief.

By that I mean, what you focus on and what you REALLY believe about yourself will manifest itself into reality. We are capable of much more than most of us realize. 

Taking a moment to look around, I see people constantly focused on being the “best”, achieving success and in constant competition with others. (thanks Facebook! ūüėČ ).

We all want to do well, but there are a lot of different interpretations of success….money, a job title, beating someone else…though these are superficial, temporary examples of success. Many are attracted to physically beautiful, but false characters in movies, tv shows while living in unstable and unhealthy relationships in their “real life”.

I get caught up in this stuff too, hey I’m human, but quickly I am reminded that these things are truly worthless¬†in reality.¬†I learned this lesson from my greatest loss. Death can be a great teacher if we let it. It can teach us to live.¬†

When we focus on these superficial human ideas and feel that we are successful when we achieve them what does that say about our beliefs? What does that say about what we value in life? What we value in ourselves?

Perhaps success is when you reach a place where you are living your truth, confident in who you are and your purpose in this world, and those temporary, earthly items are no longer needed to validate who you are. You no longer need to “beat” someone else or cut them down to feel superior for a moment.¬†And you will no longer tolerate that behavior from others around you.¬†

Confident, kind and giving people become the most attractive people you know and become your role models. Instead of your eyes searching for beautiful appearances, they search for beautiful and awakened spirits.

Your eyes open to the journey and struggle of every soul on this planet and how we are all connected, created by the same hand.

Perhaps that realization alone is the real definition of success in this life. 

Never Give Up,


Your time is limited, so don’t waste it living someone else’s life. Don’t be trapped by dogma – which is living with the results of other people’s thinking. Don’t let the noise of other’s opinions drown out your own inner voice. And most important, have the courage to follow your heart and intuition. They somehow already know what you truly want to become. Everything else is secondary. -Steve Jobs