Veterans Day 2014


Happy Veterans Day! Is that the correct greeting? I am not sure. Either way, today is Veterans Day, a special day meant to honor our past and present Veterans. I can’t not thank my fellow Veterans enough for their service and sacrifices. As well as the families that supported them through their service.

Yesterday was the Marine Corps birthday, which also is Tyler and I’s wedding anniversary. It would have been 7 years. I did pretty well with it this year. It is getting easier to smile at memories, rather than cry. I have so many blessings in my life today to be grateful for that I try to focus on.

Time is the most precious and valuable things we can possess. To sacrifice time with family and friends to serve is something see as extremely important to recognize. After losing someone, every last second with them is precious. Every lost  moment with them is painful. Veterans often miss holidays, anniversaries, the birth of their children, celebrations, weddings, funerals, and the many “firsts” with their children. Not to mention that many put their lives directly at risk to serve. The risk never having any of the moments ever again, so that those they love may live their lives fully and free. It is no small matter and I take it extremely personally and to heart. I hope that you take every opportunity to say thank you to a Veteran today or support them in some way.

I have been really busy, but in a good way. Today an interview I did with Alyssa Barnes, of the Earn Your Spurs podcast for Veterans Day, went live. You can listen here:

You can also find the interview on the Earn Your Spurs Facebook page. Give them a like and check out the other awesome interviews Alyssa has done. I really appreciate her reaching out, support Veterans, and helping share our story with the rodeo world. Thank you Alyssa!

There are some really great things coming up here quickly that I will be sharing on Facebook as well, so get on over and visit my page at:

I am also on Instagram and Twitter so find me there!

I hope everyone has a wonderful day celebrating our brave men and women in uniform,




Veterans Day Fundraiser for the Navy SEALs Fund!


Usually for Veterans Day I do some #RAOKs (Random Acts of Kindness) in Tyler’s honor for Veterans. This year I am hosting a fundraiser for the Navy SEALs Fund, an awesome non-profit taking care of the community, even after they leave active duty.

I noticed that I really needed a red shirt for #REDFriday. Since I am a redhead, I have minimal red in my wardrobe, basically I have one red shirt. So I was lead to designing one and then ended up turning it into a fundraiser. They turned out pretty awesome, if I do say so myself! The front says “Never Forget” and “SO1 SEAL Tyler Stimson” and the back says “Never Give Up”!

As of today we have raised over $200! I am really hoping to hit $1000 after more shirts and the auction items sell.

I am excited and humbled to say that a fellow female Veteran, Lindsey Figgins, contacted me to donate one of her custom wood burning plaques to be auctioned off! Check out her page here:

October 27th will be the day of the auction, and it is the last day the t-shirts will be available too! I have now added 5 more auction items, including Tyler’s Never Forget wristbands, Flag magnets, the very last of the Tyler decals and a Navy SEAL Fund stickers. All proceeds go to the Navy SEALs Fund.

Here is the event link on FB where you can bid on Auction Items: fundScreen shot 2014-10-11 at 12.55.56 PMScreen shot 2014-10-12 at 11.04.41 AMSEALsticker

Here is the link to the fundraiser where you can buy your T-Shirt

And as always, you can visit my Facebook page to keep up with what is happening in my world!



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Loss Lessons: Why am I here?


As I’ve said before, death can be a great teacher. It often wakes us up from living our life everyday on autopilot. Which can lead us to wonder why we have been living unconsciously all this time and to acknowledge the longing to live to our real potential, to fulfill our unique purpose.

Many struggle with knowing what their purpose is. Often it is because they are still letting outside influences or what they were told as a child keep them from acknowledging their passions and believing they are capable of living them.

Here’s the big secret, you can achieve your goals and you can live your dreams. YOU just have to believe it and then you have to DO something to get there. It doesn’t have to be some huge step, a very small step is more effective than getting stuck in the pre-planning/dreaming stage out of the fear of failure and risk.

The other necessary part of all this, is to not focus on just yourself. You could achieve your goals just to please yourself, but that is very
fleeting satisfaction. It will be forgotten the next day.

The key is to live your passion and use it to help others, to make the world a better place. There are limitless ways to do this, and everyone has a unique way to connect with, and help others. Some will be on a grand scale, but that is not important. Really, you never really know how many people you can impact by sharing your story, your truth and your gifts. What matters is that you live YOUR unique purpose.

Do not attempt to copy others, to take on their message, you have not lived their life or had their experiences. It is a complete waste of time to take on a false mission that you were not meant to be on and impossible to be in harmony because you are not really living your truth.

So what is your purpose?

Are you even awake?

I hope so.




Loss Lessons: Success


Remembering that you are going to die is the best way I know to avoid the trap of thinking you have something to lose. You are already naked. There is no reason not to follow your heart. -Steve Jobs

I am a big believer in belief.

By that I mean, what you focus on and what you REALLY believe about yourself will manifest itself into reality. We are capable of much more than most of us realize. 

Taking a moment to look around, I see people constantly focused on being the “best”, achieving success and in constant competition with others. (thanks Facebook! 😉 ).

We all want to do well, but there are a lot of different interpretations of success….money, a job title, beating someone else…though these are superficial, temporary examples of success. Many are attracted to physically beautiful, but false characters in movies, tv shows while living in unstable and unhealthy relationships in their “real life”.

I get caught up in this stuff too, hey I’m human, but quickly I am reminded that these things are truly worthless in reality. I learned this lesson from my greatest loss. Death can be a great teacher if we let it. It can teach us to live. 

When we focus on these superficial human ideas and feel that we are successful when we achieve them what does that say about our beliefs? What does that say about what we value in life? What we value in ourselves?

Perhaps success is when you reach a place where you are living your truth, confident in who you are and your purpose in this world, and those temporary, earthly items are no longer needed to validate who you are. You no longer need to “beat” someone else or cut them down to feel superior for a moment. And you will no longer tolerate that behavior from others around you. 

Confident, kind and giving people become the most attractive people you know and become your role models. Instead of your eyes searching for beautiful appearances, they search for beautiful and awakened spirits.

Your eyes open to the journey and struggle of every soul on this planet and how we are all connected, created by the same hand.

Perhaps that realization alone is the real definition of success in this life. 

Never Give Up,


Your time is limited, so don’t waste it living someone else’s life. Don’t be trapped by dogma – which is living with the results of other people’s thinking. Don’t let the noise of other’s opinions drown out your own inner voice. And most important, have the courage to follow your heart and intuition. They somehow already know what you truly want to become. Everything else is secondary. -Steve Jobs


Approaching 4 Years…


With Love Comes Risk of Unbearable Loss

Tyler has been gone almost 4 years. I have been doing well and sharing the #RAOKforTyler2014 event, along with riding, working, racing, etc. I often have the false sense of being “good” now.

It is funny how grief really does have a pattern. For me anyway. I see Tyler every day. In pictures and in my thoughts. But today, I saw a picture of him and the memories and tears started flowing. For a moment, I was in that moment, transported, frozen in time with a photo with him smiling. It opened the floodgates to a lot of emotions and thoughts.

At almost four years, I see grief now as something that is carried forever in our hearts. We build a callous over time so that it cannot overtake us constantly, as it does in the beginning. Though certain events, words, songs, or even dates, some how can disintegrate that wall in an instant without warning no matter how long it has been since their death.

I do pay attention to these days, and I try to make them as positive as possible…but the pain is still there. The loss is still there. The memories are still there. My heart will always be broken. Though it is mended by a lot of love that I am so grateful for, it still can feel like the first day sometimes. I don’t know if that will ever completely go away. I just try to go with it when it happens. Otherwise it seems to build and make it worse. So I cry…and I come here to share my feelings and thoughts. I figure I need to.

4 years later, everything seems to have changed, but in the blink of an eye, I can be in a moment that usually feels a lifetime away.

Love really does endure all things.




My First Radio Interview!


I was selected by Alexis Bloomer to be on her show Off the Record on Sirius XM’s Rural Channel 80.  It was my first time doing an official interview and I was really excited/nervous! It turned out great when I listened today! Alexis was great and extremely supportive. I was happy to share Tyler’s memory, our story, and what I am trying to accomplish with my barrel racing. 

We recorded it while at a barrel race this morning so you get to look at the dash of my truck and hear horses whinnying in the background. I think it is fitting. 🙂

On another note, Gigi and I are having a great weekend of barrel racing! She is making a strong comeback and I am so grateful for her!




Never Give Up,


International Widows Day


WIDOW…….What kind of feeling or image does that conjure when you think of this word? Today is International Widows Day, just a little PA, if you hadn’t heard!
Black, grief, death, loneliness, these are all things that often are associated with widows by the world and what we grow up seeing as an image portraying widows. But, as I was forced into this description by the death of my husband, I slowly learned to shake off those stereotypes and join women that have emerged from the depths of loss and grief to become more than they ever thought they could be.
These women have become leaders within the community of widows(ers) and our world. Instead of being enveloped in darkness until their last day, they have become the light in this world, focused on helping others and living life FULLY. Small things are no longer taken for granted, just the feeling of peace or contentment for a brief moment….was such amazing blessing after losing Tyler. Also, receiving support and love from friends, and strangers alike, in my darkest time of need, has opened my scope of vision. I now see how connected we really all are, and can be.
I hope that I am helping to shape the image of widow into something far from our long held stereotypes of women adorned in black left to live quietly alone with their grief for the rest of their life….and into an image of strength and resiliency that shines brightly in spite of the darkness, leading the way towards a better world for everyone.





Photo borrowed from one of the widows, Christina, who has inspired me to share my story out loud. A big thank you to her.